Blind Date: 'We didn’t share a kiss, but we did exchange Instagram handles, which feels almost equivalent among gay men.'
Alfie’s Perspective on Sam
What were your expectations?
I was looking to meet someone who is a bit silly and soft-hearted, yet open to engaging in deeper conversations from time to time.
First Impressions?
Sam had a fantastic smile and radiated positive energy. We ended up being seated at different tables initially, which led to some awkward eye contact until the manager realized we were actually on a blind date.
What topics did you discuss?
We talked about the differences between American and British terms—like how you say "trunk" while we say "boot"—as well as diving into politics and our future plans for 2026.
Most uncomfortable moment?
I recounted a rather terrifying experience from a previous date where I nearly drowned in the ponds at Hampstead Heath. What I thought was a humorous story seemed to genuinely concern him instead of making him laugh.
How were the table manners?
Sam's dining etiquette was impeccable, while mine could only be described as atrocious.
What impressed you most about Sam?
I admire his motto for 2026, which is about saying yes more often. Additionally, it’s very inspiring that he has moved to London for a fresh start.
Would you introduce Sam to your friends?
Absolutely! He was a blast to be around.
Q&A Section
Interested in going on a blind date?
The Blind Date column appears every Saturday, pairing two strangers for dinner and drinks, followed by an interview where they share their experiences. These features, along with a photo of each dater taken prior to the date, are published in the Saturday magazine in the UK and online at theguardian.com. This column has been ongoing since 2009—check out more about its history here (https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2019/aug/31/10-years-of-blind-date-weddings-babies-lost-knickers) .
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We inquire about your age, location, job, hobbies, interests, and what type of person you're hoping to meet. If you feel these inquiries don’t cover everything you want to discuss, feel free to let us know.
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How should I respond to the questions?
Be truthful yet considerate. Remember that your responses will be viewed by your date, and that the Blind Date column reaches a vast audience both in print and online.
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Will you help me find my soulmate?
We’ll certainly do our best! Who knows? Maybe you’ll end up with marriage and kids!
Can I participate from my hometown?
Only if you reside in the UK. While many applicants are based in London, we welcome interest from other areas as well.
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Describe Sam in three words.
Confident, fun, and irreverent.
What do you think Sam thought of you?
I can be quite chatty, and I sensed moments when he seemed to tune out, but he did mention that I have a great personality.
Did you go somewhere after?
We headed to the station together.
And... did you share a kiss?
No, but we did hug twice and swapped Instagram accounts, which is pretty much the same thing in our social circles.
If you could alter one aspect of the evening, what would it be?
Honestly, I wouldn’t change much at all.
Score out of 10?
I’d give it a solid 7.
Would you like to meet again?
I didn't feel a romantic spark, but I would definitely be interested in hanging out as friends.
Sam’s View on Alfie
What were your expectations?
I was eager to be surprised, both by Alfie and by myself.
First impressions?
He was lively and extroverted, tall with a wonderful smile, and punctual—definitely a plus in my book.
What topics did you discuss?
We shared some dating horror stories, chatted about reality TV, and discussed the types of questions we dislike being asked on dates—mine being about hobbies and his being about music. We also reflected on the struggles of our 20s and the joys of approaching our 30s.
Most awkward moment?
Awkwardness is all about perception; it’s only as uncomfortable as you choose to make it.
How were the table manners?
Alfie's manners were far superior to my somewhat clumsy American dining style.
What impressed you most about Alfie?
He was incredibly warm and engaging, plus he has a knack for asking insightful questions—something many people overlook.
Would you introduce Alfie to your friends?
Absolutely, no question about it!
Describe Alfie in three words.
Energetic, funny, and inquisitive.
What do you think Alfie thought of you?
I hope he found me amusing, but then again, physical appearance isn’t everything.
Did you go somewhere after?
Just to the station.
And... did you share a kiss?
We exchanged Instagram handles, which is pretty much the same thing in the gay community.
If you could change one thing about the evening, what would it be?
I wish I had reviewed the menu beforehand.
Score out of 10?
I’d rate it an 8/10. The date itself was enjoyable, though I think we both felt more of a friendly connection than anything romantic.
Would you like to meet again?
Definitely!
